I have had the privilege of being sent this book to review, which you can find at http://www.dirtydialogue.com/ebook.  The title grabbed my attention immediately of course.  But as I began to read the content inside, I began to realize the genius behind the idea.  The introduction kept my eyes glued to the pages.  Why?  Because it states exactly what is wrong with people and their perception of sexuality today:

Everything you’ve ever learned about your sexuality is a
lie.
At least in terms of “right” and “wrong,” that is.
What’s “right” is that we’re all human beings. What’s
“wrong” is that our sexual nature is governed by outdated
social scare tactics, which force us to deny who we are
inside.
Especially women.

The truth is, in every good girl, there’s a naughty part of them that’s just dying to come out.  They may deny it, but behind closed doors with their boyfriend, you know they get naughty.  The missionary position mixed in with a little doggy style can only go so far.  Role playing, dirty talk, etc. can help spice up the sex life of even the most conservative Catholics.  It’s just a matter of them being able to do it without them believing they will go to Hell!

The book targets women, as they are most likely the hardest gender to sell on this topic of “being naughty” (there are exceptions!!).  Here’s a brief outline of what the book talks about:

Part 1 - How to Think About Talking Dirty

Chapter 1: Decoding the “Slut” Complex

This chapter talks about why a classy girl may be afraid to let go of control, what’s getting in her way, and  how she can get over her fear of being judged.  The author touches on topics of mixed morals in pop culture, social slader & scrutinization, the fear of “losing control”, and breaking sexual barriers.

Let’s face it…there’s much truth in all of this.  Back in the 60’s there wasn’t serious threat of STD’s and the birth control pill had just come out.  It was a time of “free love”!!  Perhaps the arrival of the HIV virus combined with a conservative movement that this idea of “free love” was removed from society.  True, some precautions needed to be taken to avoid a viral epidemic with STD’s, but somehow the idea of sexual freedom got smothered.

Chapter 2: A Man’s Point of View

In this chapter, the readers discover what a man wants, how he wants you to talk dirty, and why.  The author starts with a story about himself touching on funny stories of awkward sexual situations he had in high school, and goes into when he “found” himself in his adult years and was able to transform into a sexually attractive man.  He then touches on the Male Ego and the sexual connection between men and women: How do you make that connection?

Chapter 3:  Lust: The Carnal Human Craving

In this chapter, the reader learns the ancient secrets to how sexual energy works, how natural attraction is generated, and what hidden secrets you need to know to activate this primal appetite for having sex with you (and only you).  The author touches on sexual nature: A man doesn’t get off on you; he gets off on what he does to you. So in essence, he’s really getting off to himself, his sense of accomplishment in being “the man.”  He then goes into the “sexual secret” explaining the balance of a sexual relationship in terms of the yin and yang symbol.  A universal symbol explaining the balance between opposites.

Part 2: How to Express Your Sexuality

Chapter 4: Connecting Fantasy to Reality

This chapter talks about what a fantasy is, how a fantasy works, and how to arouse this fantasy from all angles so that you control it completely.  There are 3 sides of your “sexual” mind.  Side 1: Your physical pleasure.  Side 2:  Your emotional desire.  Side 3: Your mental reassurance.  Let’s be honest people, we all have fantasies…but I bet the majority of us don’t express them to our partners in fear of…well…being laughed at.  This book is so right…explore those fantasies and make them realities.  Wigs and costumes are great!

Chapter 5:  Breaking Out of Your Shell

In this chapter, the reader explores how to overcome sexual barriers, and how to give your self permission to unleash the kinky, freaky, nympho Yin within.  First the author touches on what the issues women have with releasing their freak within…mostly identifying the problem as a trust issue.  Then he goes into how to solve those issues.

Part 3: How to Become His Sexual Fantasy

Chapter 6:  How To Talk Dirty

In chapter 6, the reader uncovers what to say when talking dirty, how to say it, how sexual triggers work in the flow of kinky conversation and how to blend it all together to become the fantasy of his life.  Basically, if you are a shy girl and never have even dared to tell your man how you like it, this chapter is for you.  Now you will be able to be in control of his fantasy and take your sexual relationship to places he only dreamed it would be.

Chapter 7:  Exploring His Sexual Side

Now let’s be honest…it’s not only girls that have issues releasing the sexual animal inside them.  We all know (women knowing better than us men) that there are men out there that act more like dogs humping a leg then sexual beasts.  So this chapter explains how to unravel your man’s ‘secret’ desires, what and where to look for clues, and how you are already his ultimate fantasy girl and you don’t even know it.  Here you will learn how to push the right buttons, how to escalate an intimate moment, how to test his boundaries, and learn your sexual “secret weapon”.

Chapter 8:  Staying Dirty for Life

Now that you’ve learned all this great material, this chapter teaches you how to keep the spark alive as long as you want, how to grow the most intimate bond a man and woman can share, and why you have just opened the doors to the most satisfying spiritual connection of your life.  The author touches on how to keep the sex exciting, which we all know becomes a problem in a great majority of relationships out there.  He then ends with lessons in the ultimate connection.  This book is about fornicating with anyone and everyone out there…it’s about building the ultimate connection with your partner in all aspects of the relationship…the author just focuses more on the sex part in this book!

The author also has a live blog where he touches on this subject matter: http://www.dirtydialogue.com/diary.  You should check it out!!  Also available are some bonus material:

The Dirty Dictionary:  The Definitive Guide to Dirty Talk Words and Phrases

Dirty Dialing:  Instant Phone Sex Fantasy Guide to Long Distance Lust!

Dirty Delivery: 77 Sexy Text Messages Guaranteed To Blow His Mind!